Proud Pixies: Why Girls With Short Hair Are NOT Damaged

Some of you may have seen this absolutely asinine article posted on the Return of Kings blog already. Now, while I had not heard of this site before, the tagline “for masculine men” with an author commenting on “specialties in dating culture, social intelligence, and the state of masculinity” basically sums up the expected level of frat-tastic douchebaggery that shall follow.

In an article this week entitled “Girls With Short Hair are Damaged” the illiberal (and rather narcissistic) author claims that short hair is basically the biggest mistake a woman could ever make  because in so many words, it’s ugly. Period, no exceptions. When one claims only some can ‘pull off’ such a style, the blogger’s retort is that  “Just because you have enough left-over attractiveness to remain bangable after cutting off your hair doesn’t mean you wouldn’t look better with it back on”.  He’s a real prize, as you can see. The author further notes that not only do all women look worse with short hair, but that men universally hate short hair on women. (Because you know, the only reason us women have hair is for men to appreciate it.)

 

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He further insinuated that those gentlemen who claim to like short crops are simply taking advantage of the fact that girls with short hair are apparently easy. I would say that is quite the generalization, but based off of his experiences with short haired girls, I can kind of see where the guy is coming from. I would, however, note his questionable judgement in women; it’s always a good sign to see a man more interested in the length of a woman’s hair than being concerned with them being ‘roommates with a prostitute’ or “harbor(ing) twisted rape fantasies”. But hey, to each his own. It sure sounds like he has his priorities right and is great at picking out these true ladies.

I think what pissed me off the most about the article though is the statement that “Short hair is a political statement”.  While I personally think that a woman can wear her hair any way she damn pleases, I can attest that for most women, it isn’t a matter of politics. I have a number of friends from all across the political spectrum who have kept their hair short for everything from those political statements, to climate, to their own personal style. That begin said, I did not have that same option as these women he claims are doing it to make a statement or bring attention to themselves. After having waist length hair for the majority of my life, I ended up having to buzz my head a few years back due to impending baldness per chemotherapy. I begrudgingly donated my ponytail and accepted the next three years of potential regrowth. I wasn’t making a political statement, and I sure as hell wasn’t doing it for more attention. I did at first associate short hair as something boys more frequently had (not your typical view of femininity if you must)–and thus dreaded having a pixie, and the entire growing out process. Though I received many compliments, I decided that short hair was just not my personal style, yet I fully embraced it while it lasted. Bows, headbands, over the top earrings. I made it work for me. Through the entire process of growing it out, I learned that femininity doesn’t come from the length of your hair, nor the myriad of other things you can potentially strap to your head as distractions from it. But rather it comes from how you carry yourself: how you want others to view you. I didn’t need two feet of hair to tell me that I was feminine, and nor should the rest of the world.

 

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Despite the author’s assertions, not all of us women would “rather die” than cut our hair. I lost my hair so that I would live. Short hair did not make me more abrasive, masculine, deranged, or (especially) ‘easy’–it made me a stronger, more confident person, inside and out. The only perceived lack of self confidence I ever felt with short hair was due to assholes like him trying to tell me that I was any less feminine for rocking a hairstyle that doesn’t suit the cookie cutter gender roles that some men try to set our for society. While I am very far from your typical bra-burning feminist, the unbelievably sexist remarks made in the article made me realize that while women have come so far to overcome the 80 cents to a dollar and other societal inequalities, the unfortunate plight still exists, and is being solely perpetrated by these self-proclaimed “masculine men” spewing propaganda such as this to make women feel bad about a choice that should in fact make them more confident about themselves, their appearance, and their independence.

It’s true- some men don’t like short hair, and that’s something they choose. To be fair, I don’t really like men with long hair. But again, that’s also why I don’t date generally date them. I also don’t trash every single long-haired man on the internet, suggesting that his style means he is not ‘masculine enough’ by my standards. I was blessed enough to find someone during my short-hair time who did enjoy my pixie cut. To his dismay, I grew it out–but I grew it out for ME. Real men take a stand for women and their independent choices, not expect them to conform to society just to make the establishment happy.

Short hair is proof that I am far from damaged; it shows that I am a survivor. I am proud of my (former) pixie cut. And you, sir, are exactly what is wrong with society.

 

xo SA

I’ll keep it short: From Brittany to Beyonce, the immersion of short hair into modern fashion

Brittany may have startled the media by razoring her hair but really she should have just used the opportunity to rock a new do. Even though she may have been having a melt down, all the coverage on short hair lately makes me believe she would have helped her image and even maybe her self esteem a lot more if she went with a pixie instead of hiding her reverse Mohawk with the same look she has had for nearly ten years.

Look at Emma Watson for example; after years playing Herminone Granger, she faced the change (and maybe a little bit of her nerves and panic) with a drastic do that got her tons of positive attention.

From Emma, to Miley (who although has been headlining for many other reasons as well) still can’t escape the constant haircut questions and adorations. Even Charlize Theron, Anne Hathaway, Natalie Portman, as well a number of other stars, have all recently been sporting insanely short and ridiculously sexy styles. Not only do I love the change, the nod to androgyny, and tip of the hat to an ever changing definition of “sexy locks”, I love these bold women being proud of who they are and their choices of wearing bombastic haircuts that really are all about what they want. Straying from what stars “should” looks like, they all rock fabulously funky looks that are undeniably awesome.

And it looks like Queen Bey wants in on the action too! Releasing a picture on twitter and Instagram earlier today sporting a short pixie, which I am sure will go viral shortly if it hasn’t already (remember you saw it here first!), Beyonce debuted her new fierce look.

Although I have always had an obsession and talent with interesting twists, braids, colors, and styles, I love the edgy and easiness of short hair. I also love that I can be more drastic with my makeup because it is more of the focus. My co-author and I have rocked our fair share of shortie cuts, as I like to call them, and in fact, I have one now. Unfortunately it is not the one I originally wanted but the plus side of short hair cuts is that, it’s hair! It grows and I can try again in two weeks! I highly recommend shortie cuts, they are edgy, sexy, flattering, and really match any face that rocks them with confidence. You can still accessorize and there are so many great fun styles too. I threw up some pictures for your pleasure.

This was my inspiration since I was/am obsessed with this look:

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Michelle Williams:

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Another cool look:

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I seriously LOVEEEE THIS LOOK:

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I like how edgy this one is:

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Queen Bey herself: LOVE IT!
I am sure I won’t be the only one taking this picture to the hairdresser in the coming weeks!

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Emma Watson:

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Anne Hathaway: love how feminine and edgy this look is:

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I am not going to lie, I love Miley’s cut, it’s ballsy, bold, and she does it well.

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And really can’t you get any sexier than Charlize:

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So do you have a shortie do? Are you contemplating one? Not really your thing? So you like Beyonce’s attempt to join the trend? I won’t lie, I wish I could pull of a blonde do even though I am brown but chances are I can’t so I won’t but shortie cuts are always a good idea, besides hair grows, life’s too short not to be bold!

Toodles,

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