Proud Pixies: Why Girls With Short Hair Are NOT Damaged

Some of you may have seen this absolutely asinine article posted on the Return of Kings blog already. Now, while I had not heard of this site before, the tagline “for masculine men” with an author commenting on “specialties in dating culture, social intelligence, and the state of masculinity” basically sums up the expected level of frat-tastic douchebaggery that shall follow.

In an article this week entitled “Girls With Short Hair are Damaged” the illiberal (and rather narcissistic) author claims that short hair is basically the biggest mistake a woman could ever make  because in so many words, it’s ugly. Period, no exceptions. When one claims only some can ‘pull off’ such a style, the blogger’s retort is that  “Just because you have enough left-over attractiveness to remain bangable after cutting off your hair doesn’t mean you wouldn’t look better with it back on”.  He’s a real prize, as you can see. The author further notes that not only do all women look worse with short hair, but that men universally hate short hair on women. (Because you know, the only reason us women have hair is for men to appreciate it.)




He further insinuated that those gentlemen who claim to like short crops are simply taking advantage of the fact that girls with short hair are apparently easy. I would say that is quite the generalization, but based off of his experiences with short haired girls, I can kind of see where the guy is coming from. I would, however, note his questionable judgement in women; it’s always a good sign to see a man more interested in the length of a woman’s hair than being concerned with them being ‘roommates with a prostitute’ or “harbor(ing) twisted rape fantasies”. But hey, to each his own. It sure sounds like he has his priorities right and is great at picking out these true ladies.

I think what pissed me off the most about the article though is the statement that “Short hair is a political statement”.  While I personally think that a woman can wear her hair any way she damn pleases, I can attest that for most women, it isn’t a matter of politics. I have a number of friends from all across the political spectrum who have kept their hair short for everything from those political statements, to climate, to their own personal style. That begin said, I did not have that same option as these women he claims are doing it to make a statement or bring attention to themselves. After having waist length hair for the majority of my life, I ended up having to buzz my head a few years back due to impending baldness per chemotherapy. I begrudgingly donated my ponytail and accepted the next three years of potential regrowth. I wasn’t making a political statement, and I sure as hell wasn’t doing it for more attention. I did at first associate short hair as something boys more frequently had (not your typical view of femininity if you must)–and thus dreaded having a pixie, and the entire growing out process. Though I received many compliments, I decided that short hair was just not my personal style, yet I fully embraced it while it lasted. Bows, headbands, over the top earrings. I made it work for me. Through the entire process of growing it out, I learned that femininity doesn’t come from the length of your hair, nor the myriad of other things you can potentially strap to your head as distractions from it. But rather it comes from how you carry yourself: how you want others to view you. I didn’t need two feet of hair to tell me that I was feminine, and nor should the rest of the world.




Despite the author’s assertions, not all of us women would “rather die” than cut our hair. I lost my hair so that I would live. Short hair did not make me more abrasive, masculine, deranged, or (especially) ‘easy’–it made me a stronger, more confident person, inside and out. The only perceived lack of self confidence I ever felt with short hair was due to assholes like him trying to tell me that I was any less feminine for rocking a hairstyle that doesn’t suit the cookie cutter gender roles that some men try to set our for society. While I am very far from your typical bra-burning feminist, the unbelievably sexist remarks made in the article made me realize that while women have come so far to overcome the 80 cents to a dollar and other societal inequalities, the unfortunate plight still exists, and is being solely perpetrated by these self-proclaimed “masculine men” spewing propaganda such as this to make women feel bad about a choice that should in fact make them more confident about themselves, their appearance, and their independence.

It’s true- some men don’t like short hair, and that’s something they choose. To be fair, I don’t really like men with long hair. But again, that’s also why I don’t date generally date them. I also don’t trash every single long-haired man on the internet, suggesting that his style means he is not ‘masculine enough’ by my standards. I was blessed enough to find someone during my short-hair time who did enjoy my pixie cut. To his dismay, I grew it out–but I grew it out for ME. Real men take a stand for women and their independent choices, not expect them to conform to society just to make the establishment happy.

Short hair is proof that I am far from damaged; it shows that I am a survivor. I am proud of my (former) pixie cut. And you, sir, are exactly what is wrong with society.


xo SA

Fashion Forward?

So I saw this on Buzzfeed today. Some of it is pretty awesome and some, well at least technology is cool and hopefully it will evolve to be really awesome…. Till then, enjoy! Let me know what you think!

“You can have whatever you want if you dress for it ”

I consider shopping a sport. For unknown reasons, many individuals in fact hate this concept, particularly when it comes to times that you have to look your best, or at the absolute least, professional. Even those of us who would consider a stroll down 5th Ave their perfect Saturday, however, can appreciate the benefit that comes from an expert opinion. Generally speaking, I trust my best friend to tell me if that the yellow dress I picked up makes me look like a jaundiced lemon who is 8-months pregnant, and that I should in fact put on the rack. However, that’s not to say that she is in fact an ‘expert’. She’s merely brutually honest (and we really appreciate it. Honestly.)
A true expert opinion can fill the gaps in your wardrobe, and maybe actually put to use that really cool flower-y shirt you bought two seasons ago but can’t figure out what it matches with. They can convince you that with the right accessories, you really CAN pull off that leather coat without looking like a biker, and that you were in fact wearing the wrong neckline with that jewelry you love. Simple switches and additions to basically tweak what you already have. Who doesn’t want a personal stylist, right?
Well, in theory, now everyone can get one. I’m a busy working gal, so when I saw an advert for the third stylist-in-a-box this week, I saw it as a sign from above. Think Birchbox meets Rent The Runway. You create an online profile of what you love and hate, along with what you look like, and then you get mailed a box of gorgeous designer clothes. You try them all on, keep what you love, mail back what doesn’t work, and ta-da! Brand new wardrobe. While the great part of this is that you only have to pay for what you end up keeping, let’s just say these stylists don’t pick items from the sale rack. I don’t doubt that you’ll always be looking super fabulous if you are a frequent user of the stylist-in-a-box method, however unless you’re raking in some serious dough, you may want to leave the style advice to your bestie.
Below are a few of the companies that I keep hearing about. Based off of their online samples, remind me to call them when I win big 🙂





And to keep the gents in your life looking dashing…


Fall 2012

Have you ever used a stylist? Would you use a mail-away stylist such as those featured here?

xo SA

Over in the cabbage patch of London…

In honor of today’s mom-to-be, I felt that Audrey&Antoinette would have to dedicate a post to the fabulous fashion that is Kate Middleton, Duchess of Cambridge. We all know this lovely lady has been a fashion icon since she landed her man in everything from the signature L.K. Bennett’s to making Alexander McQueen a household name across the pond. Even in the final hours of her pregnancy she has been looking fabulous, and without question changing the face of modern maternity wear. (I assure you I will not be wearing heels at 8 months!)
Below are some of my personal favorites from over the years, and I’m sure you will agree with me that this classy lady will make the heir-to-be equally as fabulous as he/she grows up and takes the throne.

Because it was impossible to leave THE wedding dress off the list…


Looking like a lady in purple with her boo, HRH.


The perfect amount of glitz…


Announcing the engagement…didn’t this dress sell out of stores in 20 minutes after the photo was released?

But really, who looks THIS good pregnant??


Classy in black lace..


And my personal favorite…

Congrats to Kate and the entire Royal family on the new arrival!

xo SA